Pole dance bully

 I go through my newsfeed in facebook and it`s full of spatchcocks. I wonder if it`s a flashmob, but when I find the reason for it, my mouth hangs open. I tell my wife about it and she pauses for a second, then gives me her phone. I scroll down her emails and I see three letters. So… I have been bullied by KT Coates, too.

 I have never been bullied in my life before. I had an older brother who was strong and protective. Then I grew into quite a strong and sporty guy myself. I was a dancer, I was a break dancer, and this is a very supportive community. Like pole dance. And never in my worst dream would I imagine, that I would be bullied in pole dancing community.

 I wasn`t the first victim, though. I don`t know, who was the very first one. But the first I have been aware of – was Emma. She was the star of Britain`s Got Talent, she got «yes» from all the judges, Simon Cowell included, she was on the front page of the «Sun» - the most popular of the British tabloids. Emma is the plus size pole dancer that I had a luck to meet before, because she was one of the first British school owners to host my workshops. Emma is beautiful, very nice and has extraordinary sense of music. More than that – she is extremely strong, for example posing in Starfish for one of the pole posters. Emma has a very warm and welcoming family – caring husband and pretty little daughter. But who cares? For KT Coates,  Emma was not an appropriate representative of pole dance. After Emma appeared in the «Sun» KT wrote an angry post that she believed plus size people couldn`t represent pole community, because it was a sport. I did write my words of supoort to Emma, reposted her video. But looking back, I see it was not enough. I should have done more, I am sorry, Emma.

 Then I started noticing things. Many pole dancers from the top ten ones to the future champions, told me that they asked KT politely how to get to the IPSF World`s, and got very rude and arrogant answers. Some decided never deal with it (which is such a loss for a championship, any championship), others still tried and succeded. It was tough then, nobody understood the complicated rules, most still don`t. A smile and calm explination is the least any pole dancer deserves. Or not?

 When I came to the championship last summer I looked through the magazine, issued by organization. We all were there, all the previous champions. Except for one… Little Olga Trifonova. Why not? The girl got more hits on her performnace on youtube than all of us together. What did she do wrong? Was she just forgotten? Could she be? She fought the hardest battle of us all – people judged her, underage, competing in pole competition. What did she get from it? Fame? Money? Satisfaction? Nothing. In a year she was forgotten.

 Here and there, everybody is wrong for KT. Other championships are stupid, pole dancers who are not interested in IPSF are loosers, exotic pole dance – is a pornography.Nobody stood up to her, just shook their heads in disapproval ad deleted her from friends on facebook, she was sure she did the right thing. And then she hit the queen.

 How can you say anything against Felix? How can KT say that spatchcock – Felix`s signature trick is ugly? Felix is the reason pole dance exists! She took it to the next level. Her and Bobbi are the ones who we all need to thank for what we have today. Miss pole dance Australia is the sold-out event unlike so many others. If not for Bobbi and Felix, I would never start pole dancing. My wife saw Felix and signed up for pole class. Then in several years, I fell in love with her, because she was was so beautiful and serious, doing her bossy work, and then during coffee break told me that her hobby was pole dancing. And it blew my mind. In three years, I started pole danicing myself. If not for Felix, I wouldn`t be writing all this now and you wouldn`t be reading it. And by the way, I still claim, that Mr Pole Dance Australia is the best organized event I have ever witnessed and this is a tremendous honour to me I won it.

 And from that… I will tell you my story.  I won many championships. Some were sporty, some were artistic and some were sexy show style. I am equally proud of them all. I did put my health, time, money, imagination and effort into each one of them. I am an artist. I am professional. I was professional before pole dancing, I worked as choreographer, as teacher, as coach. I have never been accused of anything so ridiculous before.

 It all started innocently. I won IPSF championship, was happy and giddy. We had such a great company of winners there – little Olga Trifonova – Russian prodigy, amazing and inspiring beauties Greta Pontarelli and Lisa Szabo – masters` winners, crazy and sexy Terri and Lisette – best pole duo you can imagine, and one of the kindest and most talented pole dancers I have ever met – world champion Alessandra Marchetti.  I do remember, that some things confused me even then. I was doing a flip from fonji – first time in history of pole. And the floor was not even. By not even – I mean it was like a ski track for beginners. To be honest, if I was there now, with much more experiance and much less ambitions – I wouldn`t jump. Because it is just too dangerous. The second thing were the poles. In the information letter we were promised chrome poles, but there were the powder poles. I don`t mind powder poles. Actually, I absolutely love them. They have good grip and you can have any colour. But you can`t do drops on them. You just can`t. Because your skin gets ripped out. Well… Due to the IPSF rules, you had to do a compulsory drop. I was ok – I flipped. But there were girls, who ripped the skin so hard, medicians were putting stictches on them right near the stage. I thought – ok, that`s only the second time the people are doing the championship. Everybody can make mistakes. It will get better. God, was I wrong.

 Next year I went back. I had such a bad injury, I could barely walk. My wife had a baby. But people were writing me that they bought tickets just to see me, and I decided – screw it. I will do my best in that situation. I left my wife with a five days old daughter, iced my foot and went to London. But I didn`t deserve even a simple thank you, just was treated like a piece of meat, who HAD to come. Sorry, other word is much more commonly used by KT – obliged.  The medal I won only by power of my love to my little daughter (I couldn`t bare the though that I left her for nothing) was never mentioned anywhere, as it didn`t exist.

 More than that, I loved the idea of pole getting to the Olympics so much that I did a judges training. I wanted to take pole sport to Ukraine, my country, to help talented guys get prepared for the worlds, show their talent (do I need to say that we have Championship in March and I set all my busy schedule to get there, I suddenly found out I need to pass and pay for one more judging course, because some rules had changed. When? Where? I don`t have a day just to take my daughter to the playground!). I also wanted to help judges with judging flips as they obviously struggled with it. I mean, the shoulder mount flip (or a gainer, as it is commonly called) can`t have the same ammount of points as Fletcher flip that I performed, as the Fletcher flip is way too dangerous and difficult. Before doing the judges` training I wrote down the system I could suggest about grading the flips and other acrobatic elements alike. And I also wanted to ask about different venue. Uneven floor and plus 34 C on the stage – it is deathly dangerous for anybody who performs acrobatic tricks. Of course, nobody listened to me. What do I understand about flips? Why should flips get more points then transition from Jade to Allegra? After many years of training children what do I know about safety in acrobatics? I threw my notes away and decided to let it all go.

 I loved the idea of pole getting to the Olympics and I watched it dying slowly and painfully. Ambitions of one person were ruining it so fast it was fascinating. First, she couldn`t deal with gymnastics, saying pole can not be the part of gymnastics. Then she established the rules when by performing you can actually get minus points. How is it possible?! Can you imagine in sports gymnastic the athlete getting not 9.2, but minus 2?

 She bullied the organizers of the championships. They had to pay for everything – the venue, techicians, poles, judges etc. They had to pay for head judges from IPSF. And still whatever they did – it was wrong. The venue was red, the seats were plush, the poles were X-poles…  I saw people literally crying after talking to KT.

 And then there was me – somebody who really got on her nerves. I was the one who spoke his opinion, who wrote pole dancing is boring with boring tricks. I still was poplar (she couldn`t understand why) and I got invited to the championship in Switzerland, the Art one. I was asked to do choreography with a queen of French exotic dance and Burlesque – Doris Arnold. Then something happened, I don`t know what, but plans of the organizer changed. Doris and I were asked to open the IPSF championship that was happening the next day after the Art one. I had no idea IPSF was also happening there, nor I was going to attend it. We did our routine, which was funny and silly. But I took my coat off (to do fonji), and Doris performed a little bit of booty dance – her signature one. And I got suspended from IPSF.

 I have two medals of this championship, one of them gold. But I was treated like a silly puppy, who peed on the carpet and was forced to smell it to understand his fault. I tried to stay as polite as I could, my wife tried to explain to KT that this is not the way to treat pole dancers.  Or any person, to be honest. But every letter was getting more and more rude. My wife tried to explain her that I couldn`t deal with any pole dance matters at that time. I was in Ukraine with my parents who live on the border with military confrontation. The terrible crisis is shaking our country now, my parents having good salary before now barely earn 70 euros per MONTH. Every time my Mom calls I pray she has good news not someody killed, not my father getting called to the army, not Russian tanks entering my hometown. But of course, this all is nothing, my own little troubles in the face of my «erotic» performance on the IPSF championship. KT told me I should have rejected to perfom, rejected the money I earn – to make some point or something. She doesn`t care that money I earn are now not only for me, my wife and my baby, but also for my parents and 91-year old grandmother.

 You know what – they suspended me, whatever. I can`t keep up with the rules changing every month. But I am afraid what is going to happen next? Will I be punished for having sex? I obviously had at least once, as I have a baby. Will I be punished for having and speaking up my political position? Or will we all be measured and weighted and if we are a little bit bigger than KT`s standart we have no right to represent pole sport? What else? Who will be her next victim? What if it`s some sports` official, because he is gay, black or wearing a red suite – and all that would be so inappropriate in her world, which to me personally is a paralell universe! And by the way, when we had revolution in Ukraine, I was IPSF champion, and nobody expressed me any support from this organiztion. At the same time, beautiful Bobbi and her team, who are not «appropriate» were raising money and promoting truth about all the events in my home country in a faraway Australia. This is sportsmanship. Not the pointed toes.

 We have to fight the bully. Pole dance is not about the tricks, it is so much deeper. It can be sporty, it can be artistic, it can be sexy. Nobody can change it! And as a teacher I am equally happy for a student who mastered a flip as for a student, who now feels the music rythm to do a hair flick. Because there is so much more in both of them. She might go through a break up, loose her confidance and after my class, finally feeling sexy and beautiful, say no to domestic violance or say yes to a new relationship. Pole dance is for everybody – straight or gay, black, white or Asian, young and older, men and women, dancers and sportsmen. I won`t let KT take it from me, from us. It is my family, we will stay togetehr, and fighting a bully will only make us stronger, won`t it? 

Last modified onFriday, 13 March 2015 10:40

52 comments

  • Nadine Rebel

    thank you for this article!

    Nadine Rebel Friday, 13 March 2015 11:18 Comment Link
  • Marcela

    Beautiful piece!! I have no idea why we wouldn't do with our bodies and our poles whatever pleases us the most. I guess she likes her money and her time under the sun and has seen Pole Sport as the way to get them both. In any case, a little bit of witts (I believe kindness is just asking too much) won't hurt her!

    Marcela Friday, 13 March 2015 11:27 Comment Link
  • Bex

    Yes, yes yes! Everything you've said. Well done for standing up to this bully!!

    Bex Friday, 13 March 2015 11:39 Comment Link
  • Tereza

    Alex, I absolutely agree with you! I am so happy that somebody wrote this. She ruins it, we have to fight for the natural pole dance!

    Tereza Friday, 13 March 2015 11:54 Comment Link
  • Glory Pearl

    I appreciate your honesty. This woman has always behaved like this - even as a club stripper - something she keeps very quiet about now. I had death threats from her 'supporters' and she tried to physically attack me in public and swore at me in front of a crowd at an expo. But you're wrong that no one has ever stood up to her - many of us have but she blocks people, dismisses them and moves on to new territory. Her arrogance means she is moving on to more public targets such as Felix, but her methods have never changed - X-Pole dropped her because she was a liability. In the UK very few people will work with her, that is why she focused her attention on the international scene. We used to say in the UK that falling out with KT was kind of like earning your stripes - you knew you'd arrived when she picked a fight with you and tried to get people to ostracise you.

    Glory Pearl Friday, 13 March 2015 12:12 Comment Link
  • Lucie K.

    absolutely agree and I am glad I've get to know you other way than just "the mighty poler star". I'm 100% behind you Alex

    Lucie K. Friday, 13 March 2015 12:26 Comment Link
  • Lucie K.

    absolutely agree and I am glad I've get to know you other way than just "the mighty poler star". I'm 100% behind you Alex

    Lucie K. Friday, 13 March 2015 12:26 Comment Link
  • Becky

    Alex I love this!!! Never read a truer word and it really resonated with me. Thank you for this.I started my pole journey 3 years ago and would never go back, it is my life, my passion, my escape. It's heartbreaking to see men and women suffer discrimination at the hands of others, and be made to feel their skills aren't worth shouting about. On our own we are a person, together we can stand tall, proud and united against these opinions and rules.

    Becky Friday, 13 March 2015 12:36 Comment Link
  • Becky

    Alex I love this!!! Never read a truer word and it really resonated with me. Thank you for this.I started my pole journey 3 years ago and would never go back, it is my life, my passion, my escape. It's heartbreaking to see men and women suffer discrimination at the hands of others, and be made to feel their skills aren't worth shouting about. On our own we are a person, together we can stand tall, proud and united against these opinions and rules.

    Becky Friday, 13 March 2015 12:36 Comment Link
  • sue

    Your message has really moved me. I do pole for some exercise, over the last5 years, I was mocked by my peers (I was in the military) I was told it wasn't proper exercise and that being able to run was more important
    I have hypermobile joints and some moves are too painful for me to try but I kept going. I'm now trying to pluck up the courage to go back having just relocated again, I'm nervous as it's been a while, I've put on weight and much as I shouldn't I compare myself to the tiny ladies who look so beautiful.
    My main support is my amazing husband who tells me I'm strong and beautiful, probably more so than him!
    Your words have made me worry about these ladies, there's already so much media to stay thin, why are the powers of this amazing sexy sport now making such frightening decisions?
    Even some members of pole Facebook groups are so critical that it puts me off even trying let alone sharing an achievement
    Well done for the courage, amazing words, you have my support completely!
    All the best to you and my fingers are crossed for your family too xx

    sue Friday, 13 March 2015 12:42 Comment Link
  • pole daner76

    Pot meet kettle. ur being just as much a bully urself

    pole daner76 Friday, 13 March 2015 12:48 Comment Link
  • B

    I only discovered pole a month ago, but it's the most amazing thing I have ever been a part of. Never having been a small girl I now gel sexy as ME no matter what! I love the support and praise in the family that is pole

    B Friday, 13 March 2015 13:23 Comment Link
  • vikki twerky tarbuck

    I thought this was going to Turn into a joke at first but oh my god what an evil vile person who clearly doesn't understand the concept of pole dance in all its forms! I have been following Alex for maybe over a year now looking at his wife's pregnancy pics with him hovering above her you are so sweet and so inspirational with your pole dance and creativity not just in pole dance but in all aspects of dance keep going doing what you do best we will pull together and KT will be merely a shadow under our stripper heels (for us as pole seduction anyway)

    vikki twerky tarbuck Friday, 13 March 2015 13:33 Comment Link
  • Kei

    YES. Just yes, and thank you, Alex.

    Kei Friday, 13 March 2015 13:44 Comment Link
  • Alexandra

    OH MY GOD!! I love what you wrote, and its sad that this person has to spoil something so great for people that usually are soo comforting. I started my short pole journey in Perth at Bobbi's and I have to say there is nothing like Bobbi's. They are happy, fun and very open to let anyone do their thing.
    I have since moved to Switzerland and I am missing bobbi's greatly, the studios here are nothing like it. I am no great dancer nor am I someone that does awesome tricks, but I love learning and getting better. And I must say I am loosing that love here in europe, its just not as much fun.

    But thank you for speaking up, I am sure it will incur age others to do so too. This should not be happening

    Regards

    Alexandra Crosby

    Alexandra Friday, 13 March 2015 13:57 Comment Link
  • Alexandra

    OH MY GOD!! I love what you wrote, and its sad that this person has to spoil something so great for people that usually are soo comforting. I started my short pole journey in Perth at Bobbi's and I have to say there is nothing like Bobbi's. They are happy, fun and very open to let anyone do their thing.
    I have since moved to Switzerland and I am missing bobbi's greatly, the studios here are nothing like it. I am no great dancer nor am I someone that does awesome tricks, but I love learning and getting better. And I must say I am loosing that love here in europe, its just not as much fun.

    But thank you for speaking up, I am sure it will incur age others to do so too. This should not be happening

    Regards

    Alexandra Crosby

    Alexandra Friday, 13 March 2015 13:57 Comment Link
  • Karen Possessky

    This is why, I, Karen Possessky, started Peace and Pole ... to increase awareness about how relating to one another in non-aversive ways can benefit the entire industry. Love your transparency and courage!

    Karen Possessky Friday, 13 March 2015 14:06 Comment Link
  • Sabine Dworak

    I am shocked! Really! Sad news for a pole dance community where I would expect respect, tolerance, sportsmanship and some freedom of artistic expression. I am not expecting pornography on stage. But taking off a shirt on stage is nothing "wrong" in a performance. This is common to remove cloth in performances of modern and contemporary dance companies. Maybe even in some classical ballet pieces?!

    Sabine Dworak Friday, 13 March 2015 14:45 Comment Link
  • Sabine Dworak

    I am shocked! Really! Sad news for a pole dance community where I would expect respect, tolerance, sportsmanship and some freedom of artistic expression. I am not expecting pornography on stage. But taking off a shirt on stage is nothing "wrong" in a performance. This is common to remove cloth in performances of modern and contemporary dance companies. Maybe even in some classical ballet pieces?!

    Sabine Dworak Friday, 13 March 2015 14:45 Comment Link
  • Jessica Bailey

    Wow. What a story I had no idea. You are Inspirational.
    I was at the Swiss championship as the judges assistant, not sure you remember? Even I felt the stress and tension. I think the rules are crazy.
    I loved your performance with Doris..sexy..yes..but so was the half time act.
    I have had the honour of meeting and training with Felix..my first workshop actually and I will never forget it :)
    I have been pole dancing for 6 years, unfortunately because of work it has not been consistant and I am not the level I should /could be but I do it because I love and enjoy it, it makes me feel good, keeps me fit and it gives me the chance to make new friends and meet new amazing people like yourself and Felix.
    Keep up the good work. Long live Pole! :)

    Jessica Bailey Friday, 13 March 2015 15:28 Comment Link
  • abigail

    This was beautiful!!! Thank you!!!

    abigail Friday, 13 March 2015 15:42 Comment Link
  • Marine C

    Great article! I saw your performance and I really loved it, so I didn't understand when I heard about the news...
    If I could do the spatchcock, I'd totally post a pic on facebook ;)

    Keep poling, there's others championships to win!

    Marine C Friday, 13 March 2015 15:44 Comment Link
  • chrissy

    I was bullied .. love the post .. much love x

    chrissy Friday, 13 March 2015 15:45 Comment Link
  • chrissy

    I was bullied .. love the post .. much love x

    chrissy Friday, 13 March 2015 15:45 Comment Link
  • Nina

    Amazing x

    Nina Friday, 13 March 2015 15:52 Comment Link
  • Nina

    Amazing x

    Nina Friday, 13 March 2015 15:52 Comment Link
  • Zara Groves

    Wow I knew she wasn't very well liked and have seen lots of her negative comments about other pole dancers but she really is a bully!! What a great piece, maybe one day no one will work with her anymore and she will have to go and find another sport to bully people in.

    Zara Groves Friday, 13 March 2015 15:57 Comment Link
  • Mina

    Thank you for sharing this Alex. People need to know your story.

    Mina Friday, 13 March 2015 16:01 Comment Link
  • Lindsey Teall

    Yes!! You are so inspirational, Alex. I am also writing a book about some similar things. We must fight back. It is about the ART, and how can you put so many rules on art? It is not possible.

    Lindsey Teall Friday, 13 March 2015 16:23 Comment Link
  • bee hwa vivien

    dear Alex, I have always enjoyed watching your performances tremendously. The emotions conveyed through your dancing has always inspired how I would like my style to be.Hope everything turns out the better for you and your family in the future. Hugs!

    bee hwa vivien Friday, 13 March 2015 16:39 Comment Link
  • Neesheta Patram

    Dear Alex,

    Wow. Thank you so much for this. Felix Cane was the reason I started pole dancing in 2008. I was going through a lot that year and the following 2 years were even worse, but she without ever knowing it and my pole community pulled me through. Geesh, I'm teary eyed just writing this. I am ever so grateful for that.

    A little about me, I am a pole dancer and pole dance instructor in Tampa FL. I am not a competitor however I have love to perform and have performed many times. I am known in FL but not worldwide, therefore I never really felt I would have any impact with my voice. Being in the pole world since 2008, I was Facebook friends with all of the pole girls, due to account changes and updates I am not anymore, but you can imagine KT was one of them. I was excited because at the time everything pole was exciting! (I was more excited that Felix accepted my request though ;) ) But as years went by, I started seeing this separation and started to realize it was coming from KT. Around that time I started receiving events and invites from her, posts about joining the organization, about helping to keep the image of pole dancing, about the rules of the competition, eventually about the Olympics etc... It was also after Felix had the accident. (I was so upset, I had just seen her recently at Intl. Pole Con 2011 where I balled my eyes out after her performance!) And here I am holding my heels saying, "no I can't dance without these! I'm short, they make me have pretty long lines, and I feel sassy in them!" But then I thought, is KT right? Should I start being what she says is proper and correct?

    Around this time pole dancing started becoming popular and non poler people I knew started talking about the Olympics topic but when they did it was like they themselves were separating what they thought was "sport" and women in heels. Calling them strippers or whatever. Not that there is anything wrong with strippers, I have respect for them but you know when someone doesn't and they say "you know, like those strippers!" I did not want to represent pole like that. I got into this art form because it felt empowering and welcoming. That's when I said forget it, I'm sexy pole dance army all the way. A year or so after I did a performance at the Intl. Pole Con where I mixed a song with my voiceover listing the names all of the pole dancers that I credit my "pole birth" to. I began my routine fully clothed and barefoot and by the end was in a two piece (and I'm not the smallest girl, haha) and heels. I felt it was my little way of speaking up.

    Shortly after that I received so many newsletters and request to join more KT ruled things. Now I'm sure it was just coincidence but I couldn't help but feel pressure in some way. That year I also saw the trailer for Blood Sweat and Sequins where Felix talks about heels and Olympics and such at the beginning and I was like "yes!!!!" From then on, I stopped joining or accepting KT's social media requests, I stopped reading the newsletters, etc.... Over the last few days, I'd been seeing Felix's or Bobbi's posts and people's responses and comments. I knew immediately who the criticism was coming from without anyone saying anything. I knew it was KT, I just felt it. I didn't ask or comment about anything regarding her. But when I saw the title of your letter, I couldn't believe it! You stood up for all of us and I thank you so much!! I love you and your beautiful family even more now, haha!! Thank you Alex, from the bottom of my heart.

    Love,

    Pole Sister, Neesheta Patram

    Neesheta Patram Friday, 13 March 2015 16:40 Comment Link
  • Karla TK

    Truth shall set us free!!
    This is a great example, about how "politics" and personal interests may screw things and make them loose their essence.
    Thank you for sharing!

    Please come to Monterrey, Mexico!

    Karla TK Friday, 13 March 2015 16:48 Comment Link
  • Shimarella

    I have not been a fan of KT's mission for a few reasons & now between her post about Felix & your blog entry, I have even less reason to care for her. I had no idea that she had tried to come for Emma Haslan as well. I continue to feel that the pole community is one of the most supportive ones I have been a part of, and every celebrity I have met has impacted my life in a positive & personal way. KT's u graciousness is a stain on this industry & we can all do much, much better.

    Shimarella Friday, 13 March 2015 17:48 Comment Link
  • Josi Appling

    It's so hard to understand how someone can have this kind of a mentality, to tear down one artist because their performances and styles differ, when EVERY SINGLE PERSON I have ever met through pole dancing has been nothing but supportive, encouraging, and proud of each other, no matter how "little" the accomplishment may be. Love this article!

    Josi Appling Friday, 13 March 2015 18:01 Comment Link
  • Linda

    Thank you so much for writing this Alex! I really needed this! Keep up the good work and for every pole dancer: don't stop being you! Everybody has his or her own style. That is the beauty of poledance! The combo you and Doris performed was a great example of that!

    Linda Friday, 13 March 2015 18:21 Comment Link
  • Nuala

    Pole is and always will be about the people doing it, How brave, beautiful and amazing everyone is. Alex you have stood up in the face of adversary and you are not alone my love, you have an army of us behind you from all nations across the globe. Those who try to take pole away from the people and make it all about them will always meet a humiliating end. Right on buddy and happy spatchcock day everyone xxx

    Nuala Friday, 13 March 2015 19:06 Comment Link
  • Tania

    You are such a brave man! Keep fighting for your dreams and beliefs!

    Lets keep the pole dance free of abuses and hate.

    I wish you the best for you and your entire family!

    Xoxo from mexico

    Tania Friday, 13 March 2015 19:08 Comment Link
  • Sue Paige

    Good for you Alex being so brave to write about this and stick up for yourself. I think she is jealous of Felix and Bobbi because not only do they do pole tricks but they have dance ability. They also point their feet. She must be jealous because she does not have those talents. I personally think I can find beauty in every pole dancer whether they just do tricks, dance more or as you say pure sexy. Nor am I speaking poorly of people that do not have an arch in their foot. I simply stated this because to me it looks like she must condemn what she does not possess. What a horrible person. She is afraid that other people being successful will take away from her. There is enough success to go around for every person. The ones that are beautiful on the inside as well as outside will go much farther. Good for you finally someone standing u to the bully!!

    Sue Paige Friday, 13 March 2015 19:43 Comment Link
  • Ines

    I know this is going to sound absolutely nasty but I'll say it anyway.

    I've known who Emma Hamslam is for a while and have admired her for her work. She's the reason I started pole dancing, before knowing about her I was afraid, ashamed of my body and felt like I'd never be able to do something like this. Now I feel empowered and better than I've ever felt in my whole life. And it's all thanks to Emma and the awesome instructors I have met until now.

    On the other side, I've just realized that someone called KT Coates exists, I'm not one to judge her work because after all I had never heard about her until I came across this post but I feel the urge of saying this:


    You can see the difference between great people and not so great ones, the great ones build while the not so great will focus in tearing apart others.

    This lady might want to check what she's doing because bullying others will not speak well of her and on the long run she might eventually regret the kind of attention she's bringing upon herself. I hope she realizes that before it's too late.

    Ines Friday, 13 March 2015 19:48 Comment Link
  • Dany Strange

    thanks for keeping us updated with thing we would not even imagine. I read it all and was impressed. Same envies (not bullies) happen here in Argentina too.

    Dany Strange Friday, 13 March 2015 20:08 Comment Link
  • Drew

    Nobody has time for bullies. It shocking. Good on you for speaking out. I hope your family in Ukraine stay safe.

    Drew Friday, 13 March 2015 20:29 Comment Link
  • Kay Penney

    Yes Glory - I too was there that ugly day when she verbally attached you in public - not only swearing at you in public like a pubescent school girl but has 'blocked' so many key figures in the industry - it's funny she seems to thrive of negativity especially around other influential world championships ! I feel sad for her - as she declined support from colleagues, the opportunities and companies she has had the opportunity to grow and develop with
    Let's hope that once and for all she may embrace the sister and brotherhood of like minded people across the world :))

    The comments you mention are quite distressing for the competitors past and future and for the growth of pole sport dance and fitness world wide

    Let's hope a more positive approach for the future for them will follow on from you highlighting the negativity you mention about their competition

    Kay Penney Friday, 13 March 2015 21:46 Comment Link
  • Jeannine Wilkerling

    Thanks for sharing your emotions, opinion and the truth, it was time that someone goes to the public and say what goes wrong with that lady. It was never possible to talk with her in a diplomatic way, just her opinion is the only right one. I counted the days till she bullied the wrong people. It's a pitty for the pole dance development. We wish you, your family and country all the best from Germany.

    Jeannine Wilkerling Friday, 13 March 2015 22:41 Comment Link
  • Lorena Villarreal Chávez

    I love everything that you wrote Alex Shchukin, thank you for sharing it. Your awesome pole dance videos are an inspiration for me and I'm happy to have found someone that sees Pole Art this way.
    God bless you and your family. :-)

    Lorena Villarreal Chávez Friday, 13 March 2015 23:41 Comment Link
  • Faye K

    Thank you for the insightful read Alex, I am forever in awe at the beautiful diversity of not just the athletes/dancers (whichever they preferto identify with) that is Pole, but also the diversity in the sport itself! I love that it can be for men, women, kids, it can be sexy, sporty, artisitic, and everything in between. Its a devestating eye opener that there are those out there who will always feel superior and think their ideas are the only ones that are valid. I am thinking of all those currently caught up in the horrors going on in other parts of the world, there are always more important issues to stress your time on than worrying about little things like a little cheek in a routine - so trivial!!! I hope you recieve much more positive and supportive responses in the future, as we should all deserve.

    Faye K Saturday, 14 March 2015 02:08 Comment Link

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